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30-Dec-2017 07:33

There are two really useful ways you can make Ok Cupid a more fruitful and pleasant experience for you as a fat.Firstly, if you’re not using Chrome, then get Chrome, then install this plugin.You don’t need to be the Boss, though, just be your own boss. For the first year and a half-ish that I was on Ok Cupid, I had loads of dates, but 99% of the time, I didn’t fancy the people I was meeting. Because I was letting my fat fears rule my choices, and going, primarily, for the ‘sort of people’ I thought would want to date me.I wasn’t even thinking about what I wanted, beyond ‘are they, like, at least 40% attractive? My own internalised fatphobia and anxieties about how other people perceive my body (often rightly-held, though always useful to unpack) were clouding my judgement to the extent to which I was not allowing myself to be an active agent in my own love life.They have as much of an obligation to be delightful and interesting as you to, and to be honest, if you’re dating men, then never forget how mediocre many men are allowed to be: you have nothing to worry about.

Never apologize for taking up someone’s time, never be grateful that they’re on a date with you, never buy into the myth that they have the upper hand because you’re fat and you should be happy they turned up.

This means, though, that even though I spent two and a half of the past three years in a relationship, I was still dating the whole time.

I’ve had(a bitter regret of mine is that I never catalogued them, but I’ve easily had 200 or more first dates since 2010), and my dating style and approach has become improved and refined over time.

I’m not going to say it’s life-altering, but it is life-enhancing.

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Now I’m using the plugin, this is what appears when I go on the profile of someone nice (this example taken from a hot date of yesteryear, who clearly matches perfectly with all the things I find appealing in a partner!It was so empowering, and is something I’m never going to let go of. More than that, people believe what they’re told: if you message someone you find hot, the vibe that surrounds that action is ‘we are a good match, we are on the same page, we are a good fit’. I identify strongly with a tweet by my darling pal Leah, all in lower case, simply saying ‘do wot i want’. I ‘do wot i want’ and there’s always been a steady stream of people to do that with me.



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